1. What ‘parts’ of you can you identify, and what are their qualities & behaviors?

i.e., “Assertive” part: firm & gives tough love, “Learning”: distracted & loves to understand things, “Critic”: feels heavy/imposing & points out what to do better, etc. Find your own unique labels for each ‘part.’

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2. How do those ‘parts’ interact with each other? Who are friends? Enemies? Or annoyances?

‘Parts’ often have opinions about other ‘parts,’ i.e., the “Critic” judges the “Adventurer” as lazy or not serious, etc.

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3. How have those ‘parts’ protected you? (or at least tried to, even if imperfectly) Show them gratitude!

Note: not all ‘parts’ are protectors; some have a child wound and feel more vulnerable/helpless. Protectors are ‘behavioral programs’ developed to protect you from feeling the hurt of that emotional wound.

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4. How do those ‘parts’ feel about their job? Are they tired at all?

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5. In an ideal world, how would they love to help you differently? Is there a job they would enjoy more yet still keeps you safe?

i.e., the “Controlling” part could evolve into “Guide/Shaper/Influencer” with talents like → predicting events, planning, understanding the impact of actions, eye for details and what could go wrong, influencing skills, etc.

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6. How could these be used differently? More flexibly?