Self-Compassion
Self-Awareness
Personal Growth

Self-Compassionate Letter

Stop beating yourself up for flaws and mistakes.

Embrace self-kindness with this powerful practice. By writing a compassionate letter to yourself, you'll learn to soften self-criticism and cultivate an understanding of your perceived flaws. It will help you explore your feelings, acknowledge your humanity, and develop a gentler inner voice. Regular practice can lead to increased self-esteem, reduced anxiety, and improved emotional well-being.

1. What aspect of yourself would you like to address with compassion today?

Reflect on a trait, behavior, or situation that causes you mild shame or insecurity.

2. How does this aspect of yourself make you feel?

Identify and name the emotions that arise when you think about this part of yourself.

3. If a loved one was struggling with this same issue, what would you say to them?

Imagine offering comfort and wisdom to a dear friend facing this exact problem.

4. How might your past experiences have contributed to this aspect of yourself?

Consider your upbringing, significant life events, or circumstances that may have played a role.

5. What small, positive step could you take to better cope with or improve this part of yourself?

Focus on actions that would make you feel happier or more fulfilled rather than harsh self-judgment.

Now, use your responses to craft a compassionate letter to yourself below. Write for 5-15 minutes, expressing understanding, acceptance, and kindness toward this part of you that you struggle with. Remember, there's no "right" way to do this – simply aim for a tone that feels nurturing and soothing to you.

Return to this later, especially when you're feeling down about this aspect of yourself, as a reminder of your inherent worthiness and the power of self-compassion.

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Greater Good Science Center

Science-based practices for a meaningful life.
The Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley explores the science of a meaningful life, fostering research into social and emotional well-being since 2001. It transforms scientific discoveries into practical resources for a happier life and more compassionate society. The GGSC bridges science and practice, helping people apply research to their lives. This nonprofit, member-supported organization is based at UC Berkeley.

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